202. I Swear...

It was the last day of the training program for the newly recruited sales executives of the company.

Training Officer Markandeyan looked at the trainees, with satisfaction.

"I have no doubt that all of you would excel in your roles as sales executives. However, I would like to give you one piece of advice..."

After a brief pause, he continued. "I observed that while conversing among yourselves during the breaks, some of you were using swear words, without any inhibition. For example, 'SOB,' the word starting with 'Bas,' etc. I would appeal to you to exercise caution and ensure that such words won't slip out of your lips, even inadvertently."

"Why, sir?" asked one trainee.

There was a mild wave of laughter.

"When I ask you not to use swear words, you ask me 'why!' Such words have become so much integrated into your everyday vocabulary. I am happy that you didn't ask 'why not?'" said Markandeyan, dryly. 

"Please don't mistake me. sir. I asked you the question, only because I have been hearing a lot of people, even those considered dignified, using such words freely" said the person who asked the question, in a tone of remorse. 

"I appreciate your asking the question openly. The use of swear words can't be considered acceptable, just because a lot of people use them. First of all, you should look at the meanings of such words. Many of them are insulting to women, particularly to one's mother. When you call some X an 'SOB,' you are demeaning not X, but his mother! Is this justified? Is this not atrocious? We don't even think about it!"

"That is the point, sir. When people use a swear word casually, they really don't mean it. So, can we not consider such use harmless?"

"Some people may consider such words harmless. If you call your friend a fool, he won't mind. But you can't use that word with a stranger, your boss or even with your colleague."

The trainers were silent, expecting Markandeyan to talk more on this topic.

"Bad words are even more dangerous than bad deeds. Because, before committing a bad deed, a person will think about the consequences of that deed. But we use bad words casually. There are people who may not know a language, but will know the bad words in that language! When it comes to the use of bad words, we have no hostile feelings towards any language. What I consider most dangerous is that many people find a thrill in using swear words. Many among even cultured and respectable people find a thrill in using swear words. Everyone knows that a burning match stick or a cigarette bud should not be thrown on the ground, before fully extinguishing it. But, a lot of people throw them on the ground without extinguishing them. I have observed people watching the glow in the match stick or cigarette bud thrown away by them, with a sense of satisfaction. They will realize the gravity of their action, only if it leads to a fire accident.

"Why do you feel so strongly about this, sir?" asked a trainee.

"There is a reason for it" said Markandeyan.

After a pause, he continued.

"In the beginning of my career, I worked in a small firm. Once, I accompanied my boss when he visited the offices of some of our customers to collect the long pending payments due from them. The person I referred to as my boss was the proprietor of the firm I was working in. Payments were overdue from a particular customer, since a long time. My proprietor was upset about it. 

"During the times people from my firm visited that customer's office, the customer was not available. During our visit too, the customer was not in his office. His wife was there. When we reminded her about the long overdue payments, she replied in an indifferent way. Infuriated by her nonchalant reply, my proprietor spoke to her angrily. While venting his anger, he uttered a swear word, It was an unintended slip of his tongue. It was a word inappropriate to be used in front of woman. Don't ask me what that word was! 

"That lady took advantage of it and went on to create a scene. Hearing her shout at the peak of her voice, employees in that office came to the room, where we were sitting and discussing. My proprietor was rattled by the reaction of that lady. He realized his blunder but didn't know how to extricate himself from the situation. So, he denied using any inappropriate word. I also went to his help, by asserting that he didn't use any undignified word and that that lady might have heard him wrongly. I lied of course, but I wanted to save my proprietor from embarrassment. After a while, we managed to come out of that office. 

"After that, my proprietor never went to that office. He sent me and other employees for collection. Whenever I went there and asked the customer for the payment due to us, he raised the issue of my proprietor using a swear word against his wife and forced me to be on the defensive. Using that incident as an excuse, he persisted with his default, without feeling guilty about it.

"My proprietor cursed himself for putting himself in a position of not being able to demand the payment due to him from a defaulting customer, because of an unconscious use of a swear word by him. After that, he stopped using swear words,

"It was a lesson to me also. At that time, I decided that I would never use bad words, in any situation, whatever the provocation. The reason I am stressing this point so strongly is to impress on you that bad words can be as harmful as bad deeds. We should fear bad words the way we fear fire."

"You are the real boss, sir!" said one trainee. 

Thirukkural
Section 1
The Path of Virtue

Chapter 21
Dread of Evil Deeds

Verse 202 (In Tamil)

thIyavai thIya payaththalAl thIyavai
thIyinum anjap padum..

Meaning:

Since evil produces evil, evil should be feared more than fire.

(This is the English version of the Tamil story 'bAs engiRa...' by the same author)

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